Hey Mr. Man....
Do you ever spend time looking at yourself and the level you're on...the level your friends are on, the level of the partner you are with or will choose to be with?
Level, as in life experience...similar inner dialogue, curiosity about life, sense of humor, ability to show up when you need them or when they need you?
Yeah, yeah, I’m going off on the deep end....I do love to converse about people and where they are going...
Anyway, I ask because I'm totally aware that past partners and I were on totally different levels. I suppose that's why they are past partners. Do you believe two people can make a partnership work when there's a level difference? It's probably not as important to guys...all this mental jumbo. I can't help but wonder, what is your take on putting effort into analyzing stuff to see the way someone's brain works?
To understand triggers or hurtful things in someone's past that makes them shut down and how to release such walls to become free again?
To whittle away the armor to reveal a spirit in it's original form as to conquer anything one could want without limits?
To embrace the wonderful imprints our parents left and undo the harmful things for that is all they knew?
Does any of this stuff cross your thoughts?
Hey, if not....cool.
Maybe it's easier that way....
Hey, could you do me a favor? Would you throw me that blow up lounge chair?
Ahhhh.....thanks. My legs were getting a little tired from all the treading.
3 comments:
Jennifer Slimko...I heard about this blog that apparently had some great photography in it and so I went to check it out. Imagine my surprise when I saw the first photo! Good stuff, we should go shooting sometime. The great photos and interesting prose have earned you a new reader, keep it up.
Hmmm...so you don't think guys care about this kind of stuff?
Dear Chris,
I am just tickled about the timing and nature of your visit to my blog! Ironic? I think not. I also continue to be touched by your support and look forward to having more of it. You are a fantastic hand model, by the way:)
Dear Garon,
God bless you for continually challenging me no matter how much or time passes or geographical space lies between us! You now give me a chance to expand a bit.
First, I wrote this about four years ago. I now know these very questions helped me get to where I am today (and that's why I love the piece). Their primitive nature encompasses the root of why we date to learn who we are and what we want to eventually find in a partnership that compliments who we'd like to become.
Secondly, I want to make sure I address the nature of "care about" as you pose in your question. The meaning of "important" as I use it in context is completely different than the idea of "care about". In general, just one generation ago, men were not encouraged to share emotion and challenge the inner-workings of themselves and partners they chose. In fact, the purpose of relationships have changed so much in one generation, that men oftentimes WANT and HAVE to show up with all their emotions in tact. So, I feel it "important" to be clear that it's not that I think men don't "care about" these matters, they just haven't been encouraged to think they are "important" as the role that civilization cornered them into. Who COULD have time to explore emotions when one person in the relationship (usually men) were expected to spend their whole day to bring home the meat!
In conclusion, I am ELATED that two men that I know that have spent time to "care about" the very questions I ask in my piece, found it "important" to reach out and express!!
My word, mission accomplished. Can a girl get any luckier?
Oodles of gratitude for teaching me to explore and listen,
Jennifer
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